Better Than Bitter

The Divorce Legal LaunchPad

Personalized Digital Interactive Planner

The most comprehensive on-demand legal prep tool for divorce.

Divorce is a thousand decisions you’ve never made before, billed by the hour. The LaunchPad gets you organized before the meter starts running — and keeps you organized through every stage. Three steps:

Know where you stand — free. The interactive questionnaire reads your real situation — kids, home, retirement, conflict level, even how you’re holding up — and gives you your Divorce Complexity Score plus a cost estimate built on actual attorney rates in your state. Three minutes, no signup.

Build your custom plan. Your personalized legal-prep roadmap: which professionals you need (and which you don’t), your state’s official child-support calculator and financial-disclosure forms, a document-gathering checklist, and word-for-word scripts for telling your kids, family, and employer — downloadable to share with your legal and financial team, so you pay them to advise, not to organize.

Work out what you want — and why. The Positions & Interests Workbook turns your assets and your values into offers: what you want, why you want it, and a living Excel worksheet that tracks the division until every dollar is allocated. You walk in prepared while others walk in guessing.

What you walk away with: a complete divorce planner and financial asset-division workbook — your state’s resources linked, valuation guidance for pensions and businesses, and vetted professionals in your state: attorneys, mediators, parenting coordinators, certified divorce real-estate experts, certified divorce lending professionals, and more.

All of it for less than half of one hour of the average attorney’s time in your state.

↓ Start with Step 1 — your free score and cost estimate ↓

Educational and organizational only. Better Than Bitter is not a law firm and Tania Leichliter is not an attorney. This is not legal, financial, or therapeutic advice — it will point you to the right professionals for that. Full disclaimer at the bottom of this page.

1You & your marriage

What state will you divorce in?

Where are you in the process?

Just considering it

Decided, not started

In the process

Finalizing

Recently divorced

How long have you been married?

Under 2 yrs

2–9 yrs

10–19 yrs

20+ yrs

How would you describe things with your spouse?

Mostly amicable

Mixed

High-conflict

Health insurance — how are you covered?

I have my own

I'm on my spouse's plan

We're already separate

Are any of these part of the picture? (choose any that apply — skip if none)

Substance abuse

Physical abuse

Emotional abuse

Mindset check-in

How are you holding up right now?

Steady

Up and down

Overwhelmed

Numb

Angry

Hopeful

Working on yourself matters as much as the paperwork. Add Better Than Bitter membership to my plan — the Divorce Resource Library, community chat, and the Divorce Club: 5+ weekly live sessions, find one that fits your schedule.

2Children

Do you have children together?

Yes

3Finances

Who works?

We both work

I work, partner doesn't

Partner works, I don't

Neither works

Approximate household income?

Under $75k

$75–150k

$150–300k

$300k+

Retirement savings (401k, IRA)?

Yes

No / minimal

Is there a Health Savings Account (HSA)?A tax-advantaged medical savings account that comes with a high-deductible health plan. HSA money saved during the marriage is a marital asset — it can be divided tax-free under the divorce decree, with the other spouse’s share moved into an HSA in their own name.

Yes

Unsure

Is there a pension?An employer plan that pays a monthly income in retirement — different from a 401(k)/IRA, which is an account balance.

Yes

Unsure

Deferred compensation?Pay already earned but scheduled to arrive later — deferred bonuses, SERP, profit-sharing.

Yes

Unsure

Disability benefits or a disability policy? (either spouse)Monthly disability payments being received, or a private disability-insurance policy.

Yes

Unsure

Employer stock — stock options or RSUs?Shares or options an employer grants as part of pay, usually released ("vested") over years. RSU = restricted stock unit. Different from investments you've made yourselves.

Yes

Unsure

Do either of you have life insurance?

Yes

Unsure

Investments you've made yourselves, outside retirement?Brokerage or mutual-fund accounts, rental property, or a business you own — not the employer stock above.

Yes

Do you work with a financial advisor?

Yes

Is there a prenup?A written agreement signed before the marriage about how assets would be divided.

Yes

Money check-in

When you think about handling the money side of this divorce, you feel…

Confident

Anxious

Out of my depth

Avoiding it

4Property & assets

Do you own a home?

Yes

We rent

Do you own any other real estate? (second home, vacation home, rental, land)

Yes

Do you own commercial real estate or income property?Rental homes, multi-family, mixed-use, land, or the building a business operates from.

Yes

How many vehicles do you own?

None

Has either of you received an inheritance or large gift during the marriage?

Yes

Unsure

Did either of you bring significant assets into the marriage?

Yes

Unsure

5Looking ahead

Who have you told about the divorce so far? (choose all that apply)Your plan will include word-for-word scripts for the conversations still ahead of you.

Our children

My family

Friends

Coworkers / employer

Almost no one yet

Support check-in

Who’s in your corner right now?

A strong support system

A few people

Mostly on my own

What weighs on you most right now?

The kids

Money

The conflict

Being alone

Starting over

All of it

Do you imagine meeting someone new after your divorce?

Yes, eventually

Not thinking about it

Definitely not

I'm already dating

IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER — PLEASE READ. Better Than Bitter and its founder, Tania Leichliter, are not attorneys, and Better Than Bitter is not a law firm. Nothing in this tool — including complexity scores, planners, organizers, state summaries, forms links, and resource referrals — constitutes legal, financial, tax, or therapeutic advice, and none of it is a substitute for advice from a licensed professional. All content is provided for educational and organizational purposes only, "as is," without warranty of any kind, and no guarantee is made as to its accuracy, completeness, or fitness for your situation. Use of this tool does not create an attorney-client, fiduciary, or advisory relationship of any kind. Divorce and family law differ significantly from state to state and change over time; links to state calculators and forms are provided for convenience only, may become outdated, and belong to their respective owners. Before making any decision about property, support, custody, taxes, insurance, or safety, consult a licensed attorney in your state and, as appropriate, a qualified financial or mental-health professional. To the fullest extent permitted by law, Better Than Bitter and Tania Leichliter disclaim all liability for any loss or damage arising from use of, or reliance on, this tool and its content. If you are in immediate danger, call 911.